Pet Loss

What a wonderful responsibility we take on when we bring a pet into our lives.  With the help and guidance from veterinarians, we provide a loving, safe and healthy environment for our pets who share everything with us. Pets see us through marriages, divorces, and the birth of children.  Pets endure separation and welcome us back as if we'd been away forever.  They are the best pals we have for accepting us as we are.

But one day, our best pals must leave us. And when the kind face and acceptance we used to turn to is gone, where do we go for comfort?  Below are a few options and information for you.

Cremation Services

Friends of Animals Humane Society works with a cremation service that offers two types of cremation services to meet the needs of pet owners.  If you wish to arrange to have your pet cremated once they have passed on please call us at 218-879-1655 to arrange this service.

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

 

Private Cremation

This service is for owners who wish to have the remains of their pet returned to them.  Once your pet is individually cremated, its remains are carefully packaged and returned.

Prices are as follows:
For pets weighing 35 lbs. or less -$105.00
For pets weighing 36-75 lbs -$120.00
For pets weighing 76-200 lbs - $135.00

The ashes of your pet will be available for you to pick up approximately five to seven business days after your pet is brought to Friends of Animals Humane Society.


Communal Cremation
This service is for owners who do not wish to have the remains of their pet returned to them.  With this option your pet is cremated and you do not receive their ashes back.

Prices are as follows: For pets weighing 35 lbs. or less -$30.00
For pets weighing 36-75 lbs -$35.00
For pets weighing 76-200 lbs - $40.00
 

Pet Loss Support Group

The loss of a beloved pet can be one of life's most difficult experiences. Your grief is very personal. However, you do not need to grieve alone. In the supportive environment of the Friends of Animals Humane Society's Pet Loss Support Group, you are invited to talk about your loss and share memories of your pet with others who will understand and help you cope with your loss.

Our support group is FREE and open to the public. You may come once or as often as you need to.

If you are in need of help call Diane Parkhurst at 218-879-1655 for more information or to set up an appointment.   

 
 

 

Understanding Grief

One of the most difficult and important parts of grief and loss is seeking to understand what has happened and that what you are feeling is all right. Your sense of loss may encompass your life and that is all right.  You have that right to grieve and you can take as much time as you need.  In a busy and demanding world, the trick is to take the time.

 

 

There are many stage of grief, and none of them are absolute. Time frames vary from person to person. Generally, the stages include:
1. Shock/disbelief/denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

Ideally these stages are supposed to progress from stages one through five in predictable fashion. But often this just doesn't happen. Many don't go through all of the stages, and almost everyone will be thrown back into and out of these stages before the healing truly begins. You may find yourself very close to resolution when a memory or anniversary of your pet. s passing knocks you back into the anger or denial stage. Not only is this understandable but it is also a fact of life. Give yourself time. If you feel that time is passing too painfully for you or you want some very special and caring support, there are many sources of support available to you.

1. Your veterinarian. Your relationship with your veterinarian has just been very emotional and personal. Few people understand your loss like the staff who have cared for your pet and who have helped you make your decision. Some pet owners, when going through the anger stage of grief will blame their veterinarian for their loss. Talk this over with your pet's caregiver; it may help you come to terms with that part of your loss.

2. Friends and family. Don't overlook this resource. Many of them have been with you in your grief from the time of decision or the receipt of the terrible news. And most have known your pet as long as you have. It may be difficult to accept help, but if someone offers, think about accepting it.

3. Church or Synagogue. If you have a relationship with a pastor or rabbi, don. t forget that they may be there for you. For many people, religion is a framework of life. Don't think that they would not want to hear that you lost your pet.

4. Support Groups. Seeking help is absolutely all right and very common. Grief and depression are just as real over the loss of a pet as they are over the loss of a person.